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When the news is really, really bad and pain breaks your heart, where do you find hope?

If the death of a loved one, especially your child, has totally shattered your sense of well-being, and you’re feeling emotionally lost and wondering if you’ll ever really be happy again, I can tell you from personal experience the answer is YES.

The day my son died, I felt pain in my heart like none other, and I have transformed that pain.

It is possible to throw off the smothering, dull blanket of sadness that dropped over your life when your loved one died.

You can stop isolating yourself to avoid letting anyone see your unpredictable tears.

You don’t have to continue thinking the thoughts that won’t leave you alone, pretending to be okay so you don’t upset your friends or family.

Hope and joy do linger right beside the pain, waiting for you to notice that it’s okay to laugh or have fun again.

There’s a reason you were drawn to this website and this page.  You may not know it right now, but I believe your heart led you here for healing.

The haunting “if onlys” and “should have’s are normal

Sadly, it is normal to be haunted by “if only” and “should have” thoughts, repeating memories that keep you going back to the moment you got the call, or the diagnosis. These thoughts cause you to feel the horror of that moment over and over again.  I know, because my mind became an instrument of torture until I learned to manage it.

You may find yourself worrying about something happening to your other loved ones as well, that is also normal.

The waves of grief, the numbing blanket of sadness, the concerns about feeling too vulnerable with others, the isolation, the overdoing, or the total lack of energy—all of this is “normal,” until you learn another way to work with the pain.

Keep your broken heart open

While it may not seem like it at first, the truth is, you can learn to live joyfully from a broken open heart. In fact, when your heart has been cracked open, don’t close it. Live from that place.

I found that keeping my heart open allowed me access to higher realms of awareness and joy in the midst of my pain.  Keeping my heart open allowed the healing waters of love to flow into me.  Keeping my heart open kept me connected to my son.

When your heart is open you become more present. You begin to notice sacred moments and sacred experiences deep within the sorrow that bring you closer to yourself, to your loved one, to your God, to whatever you want to call that space that knows all is well.

I want to show you how to use the sacred soil of sorrow to grow your soul, instead of burying your joy with your loved one.

Demand your blessing . . . Your hero’s journey

It’s not about denying or avoiding the pain. There’s no way out but through. I clawed and inched my way through the grief and learned that there are ways to work with the sadness and sorrow that actually became a blessing to me.

When I decided to start sharing what I’d learned with others who have experienced the death of a loved one, especially a child, the feedback I received was so encouraging, and it’s my greatest hope that the path I found and the tools I used can help you heal as well.

Since my son’s death, I’ve written a couple of books, developed an online healing program, spoken to audiences about how we can use grief to grow, and more recently opened myself to work one-on-one with a select few.

I am interested in supporting those who want to focus on hope and empowerment—those who are willing to use their grief to grow, to see their broken heart as a doorway to joy and happiness, and are willing to choose peace of mind, joy, and healing.

If that’s you, we will take your needs and hopes for healing and translate them into a transformational path that we will explore together over the course of approximately 90 days.